“The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.” – Jon Kabat-Zinn
Stolen glances that offer soundless reassurance, quick nods that convey more than words can, soft touches to let you know something's wrong, hushed sighs that imply not all is right, half smiles that imply contentment, winks to express amusement, a squeeze of the hand to comfort the restless and disgruntled mind.
They say these little silent means of communication are worth much more than any spoken/written word. They convey all the right things, and their application eliminates all need for verbal communication. “Actions speak louder than words”. And they aren’t wrong.
But sometimes, in addition to the silent gestures, one NEEDS to state in so many words what it is that they are going through, without having to be asked. One needs to share the little things that are on one’s mind. One needs to express what it is that is disgruntling them so much, what it is that is amusing them. The people who like and love us and care about us are not mind readers; nor do they have some insane sixth sense. They are, however, around to listen to all the things we have to say. And more often than not, they want to know what is on our minds.
So for god’s sake, tell them whatever it is that you are feeling. Vent at your close ones if you’re frustrated after a bad day. Feel like you’ve accomplished something at work? – celebrate it with them. Bored out of your mind? - let them know. Sad about something that happened at home? – cry on their shoulder in their arms. Got an incredulous life-altering, earth-shattering idea that'll probably never work? - let them in on the secret. Craving for a food item? - inform them, they'll be happy to accompany you in your quest for it. Happy because, well, JUST? – tell them you are.
Because that’s what they’re here for. Really. And don’t say “No, they’re here for more important things” – because while that may be true, they are also here for the little things. They are here to experience your little moments with you. Because those are what truly matter.
Remember that.
3 comments:
I couldnt agree more.
It's odd, but I actually had a parallel thought when I read this. The 'big things' don't happen often. but the little things happen all the time. the little things get tested everyday!! So if someone's around for the big things, well that doesnt happen often. the little things on the other hand.. now dealing with that is a true test, seeing it on a daily basis.
Might be unrelated, but had these thoughts.. think I'm going to write a note on it soon. ;)
I'm reading these post again after so long..why now ?..coz im waiting to trek at 3 30am. :p
anyway..
I like how you're being a counselor on "expressing" what you feel..:)
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